Aneka kado ini tidak dijual di toko. Anda bisa menghadiahkannya setiap saat,dan tak perlu membeli ! Meski begitu, beberapa kado ini adalah hadiah terindah dan tak ternilai bagi orang-orang yang Anda sayangi. Apa sajakah kado-kado istimewa tersebut ?
1. KEHADIRAN
Kehadiran orang yang dikasihi rasanya adalah kado yang tak ternilai harganya. Memang kita bisa juga hadir dihadapannya lewat surat,telepon, -foto atau faks. Namun dengan berada disampingnya. Anda dan dia dapat berbagi perasaan, perhatian, dan kasih sayang secara lebih utuh dan intensif. Dengan demikian, kualitas kehadiran juga penting. Jadikan kehadiran Anda sebagai pembawa kebahagiaan.
2. MENDENGARKAN
Sedikit orang yang mampu memberikan kado ini, sebab, kebanyakan orang lebih suka didengarkan, ketimbang mendengarkan. Sudah lama diketahui bahwa keharmonisan hubungan antar manusia amat ditentukan oleh kesediaan saling mendengarkan. Berikan kado ini untuknya. Dengan mencurahkan perhatian pada segala ucapannya, secara tak langsung kita juga telah menumbuhkan kesabaran dan kepedulian.
3. KERENDAHAN HATI
Untuk bisa mendengar dengan baik, pastikan Anda dalam keadaan betul-betul relaks dan bisa menangkap utuh apa yang disampaikan. Tatapwajahnya. Tidak perlu menyela, mengkritik,apalagi menghakimi.Biarkan ia menuntaskannya. Ini memudahkan Anda memberi tanggapan yang tepatsetelah itu. Tidak harus berupa diskusi atau penilaian. Sekedar ucapan terima kasihpun akan terdengar manis baginya.
4. DIAM
Seperti kata-kata, didalam diam juga ada kekuatan. Diam bisa dipakai untuk menghukum, mengusir, atau membingungkan orang. Tapi lebih darisegalanya, diam juga bisa menunjukkan kecintaan kita pada seseorang karena memberinya "Ruang". Terlebih jika sehari-hari kita sudah terbiasa gemar menasihati, mengatur, mengkritik bahkan mengomeli.
5. KEBEBASAN
Mencintai seseorang bukan berarti memberi kita hak penuh untuk memiliki atau mengatur kehidupan orang bersangkutan. -! Bisakah kita mengaku mencintai seseorang jika kita selalu mengekangnya ? Memberi kebebasan adalah salah satu perwujudan cinta. Makna kebebasan bukanlah, "Kau bebas berbuat semaumu." Lebih dalam dari itu, memberi kebebasan adalah memberinya kepercayaan Penuh untuk bertanggung jawab atas segala hal yang ia putuskan atau lakukan.
6. KEINDAHAN
Siapa yang tak bahagia, jika orang yang disayangi tiba-tiba tampil lebih ganteng atau cantik ? Tampil indah dan rupawan juga merupakan kado lho. Bahkan tak salah jika Anda mengkadokannya tiap hari ! Selain keindahan penampilan pribadi, Anda pun bisa menghadiahkan keindahan suasana dirumah. Vas dan bunga segar cantik di ruang keluarga atau meja makan yang tertata indah, misalnya.
7. TANGGAPAN POSITIF
Tanpa sadar, sering kita memberikan penilaian negatif terhadap pikiran, sikap atau tindakan orang yang kita sayangi. Seolah-olah tidak ada ! yang benar dari dirinya dan kebenaran mutlak hanya pada kita. Cobalah ingat, berapa kali dalam seminggu terakhir anda mengucapkan terima kasih atas segala hal yang dilakukannya demi Anda. Ingat-ingat pula, pernahkah Anda memujinya. Kedua hal itu,ucapan terima kasih dan pujian dan juga permintaan ma'af, adalah kado cinta yang sering terlupakan.
8. KESEDIAAN MENGALAH
Tidak semua masalah layak menjadi bahan pertengkaran. Apalagi sampai menjadi cekcok yang hebat. Semestinya Anda pertimbangkan, apa iya sebuah hubungan cinta dikorbankan jadi berantakan hanya gara-gara persoalan itu ? Bila Anda memikirkan hal ini, berarti Anda siap memberikan kado "kesediaan mengalah". Kesediaan untuk mengalah sudah dapat melunturkan sakit hati dan mengajak kita menyadari bahwa tidak ada manusia yang sempurna di dunia ini.
9. SENYUMAN (*_,*)
Percaya atau tidak, kekuatan senyuman amat luar biasa. Senyuman,terlebih yang diberikan dengan tulus, bisa menjadi pencair hubungan yang beku, pemberi semangat dalam keputusasaan, pencerah suasana muram, bahkan obat penenang jiwa yang resah. Senyuman juga merupakan isyarat untuk membuka diri dengan dunia sekeliling kita. Kapan terakhir kali anda menghadiahkan senyuman manis pada orang yang dikasihi ?Selamat membagikan Aneka Kado Terindah ini... hari ini juga ...
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Senin, 31 Maret 2008
How To Lose Weight The Easy And Safe Way
by Rasheed Aladel
WHAT IS THE BEST DIET Many people ask me which is the best diet for me to follow, with practically a new diet coming out every year I find myself getting frustrated with the mis- information being put out there. Let me shine some light on some of these fad diets. Why fad diets don't work There's no question if you follow these fad diets you will lose weight, but I can also guarantee you will not be able to sustain these so-called diets which is why millions of people follow these diets only to pack back on the pounds again. The simple answer to this is fad diets do not work, the reason they do not work is because you can only follow such a ridiculous routine for only so long successful long-term weight loss is not necessarily about a diet but it's about long-term happiness. I even hate that word diets, because it is linked to feelings of restriction and unhappiness but what I do believe in is a sensible nutrition plan which allows you to eat five to six enjoyable small meals a day. To be honest with you I wish all of these fad diets did work then we wouldn't be experiencing the problems we have today such as obesity, diabetes and cardiovascular disease. Before I explain to you the concept of a healthy eating plan I'll cover just a few of these fad diets.
THE ATKINS DIET. I'm sure you've all heard of the Atkins diet and heard about the supposed success stories. The problem is that most of these fad diets work on the basis of calorie reduction. with the Atkins carbohydrates are severely limited, the atkins diet requires that you get your calories from just protein and fat. The way this works is by consuming so much fat and protein it sends a signal to your brain saying that your full when in reality you are not, this can result in metabolic disorders. The Atkins diet will allow you to lose weight but at what cost? the side-effects of the Atkins diet is nausea, vomiting, stomach pain, and bad breath (urghh) I would have to say the Atkins diet is a big no-no, a healthy diet is well rounded and borrows from all the food groups such as carbohydrates, protein and good fats. Tricking your body into believing it is full, when it's not, will only can catch up with you and make you feel ill through the lack of nutrients received in you diet. The weight loss achieved in Atkins is mainly muscle mass, and muscle tissue is what helps speed up your metabolic rate, the more muscle tissue you have the more calories you burn. Which is why when people realise they cannot sustain the Atkins diet any more they put the weight on twice as fast because now they do not have the muscle to combat the fat. Bear in mind when a new diet hits the market and seems too good to be true, your usually right!
THE ZONE DIET The zone diet is used by many celebrities such as Jennifer aniston, Renee zellweger, Madonna, Cindy Crawford and Winona Ryder. The main concept of the zone diet is a balanced ratio of carbohydrates (40) and proteins (30%) so on this diet you do actually get to eat, which in my eyes is a good start. The zone diet works by following recipes with a low-carbohydrate diet plan, it does insist on watching your calorie consumption while eating eg. A meal must not exceed 500 calories and a snack must not exceed 100 calories which they call staying in the zone. I must say weight loss is not the only benefit of the zone diet you also experience improved energy, improved mental clarity and is also ideal for type 2 diabetes sufferers. This diet was implemented to reduce hunger and compulsion to eat. Zone diet recipes are customized to each individual, based on your sex, activity level and proportion of body fat. The foods the zone diet encourages are fresh vegetables, fruits and nuts, leafy green vegetables, sufficient protein consumption, and eight glasses of water everyday. How weight loss is achieved with the zone diet is similar to the low gi diet. By reducing your carbohydrates your body will not produce too much insulin (a hormone that tells your body to store up nutrients) consuming too much carbohydrates causes this to happen which is why carbs are seen as the bad guys. The overload of insulin tells the body to convert the carbohydrates you ate into fat stores around your belly, thighs, buttocks and other areas. Carbohydrates are not totally the bad guys if you limit them and balance them with low-fat protein this will keep your insulin levels balanced. I like this diet because it's not so much a diet, it's more of a eating plan. The only problem I have with the zone diet is calculating meals and snacks every day is not totally convenient, with 5 hours of exercise a week and a variety of balanced meals consisting of low gi carbs, protein and veg is a simpler formula to lose weight.
THE SOUTH BEACH DIET The south beach to me is an improved version of the atkins diet because it does allow "good" carbohydrates like fruit and foods with a low glycemic (Gi) index. The south beach diet gives you the freedom to snack all day if you feel the need to and not to worry about counting calories. This diet is a complete waste of time because if you give people in search of losing weight the go-ahead to eat a portion as big as they like, they probably will, I know I would if I didn't know any better. Even eating the healthiest foods if you consume too much you will still put on weight.
WEIGHT WATCHERS Weight watchers have created their own brand of foods with low calories from full dinners to ice cream. I must say weight watchers have tried to make counting calories as simple as they can here by running a points system. Their point system runs something like this: each food has a point value ranging from 0 for jelly to 8 for pizza. Depending on your bodyweight, you are allowed a certain amount of points daily, if you stay under your points you lose weight. With weight watchers you are allowed to bank points and use them over days, exercise also earns you points. When you're feeling down in the dumps or lacking in the motivation department you can go to daily weight watchers meetings and get great tips and motivation from others who have overcome their obstacles and achieved there goals. I believe weight watchers has stood the test of time because they focus more on long term healthy eating rather than restrictive dieting, we are all human and sometimes we desire some of our favorite dessert or pizza without having to feel like a failure. I feel this is totally acceptable and is a good approach to achieving your goals.
THE GI DIET This diet definitely takes the No.1 spot for me, because it's more of a eating plan than a restrictive diet. The GI diet also teaches you that carbs are not the bad guys after all, it's the type of carbs you eat that is important. Put simply the GI diet is a scale which charts how quickly a food is converted into sugar in the body. Foods that chart as a high G.I number are converted into sugar more quickly than foods that have a low G.I number, the scale is based on a rating of 1 to 100. So why is the G.I number important? If a food is rated high on the G.I scale your body is more likely to store fat, this is due to insulin which is the primary storage hormone in your body and is used to help get nutrients into the different cells of your body. High G.I foods raise our blood sugar so rapidly that insulin has to be released in our body to bring our blood sugar down to a normal baseline, in order for insulin to bring our blood sugar levels down it has to store the sugar It's a simple stimulus - response system that works to keep blood sugar levels in balance in the body. So how does this affect your fat loss? I'll tell you how, just remember when insulin is present in your bloodstream, your body is in STORAGE mode and will NOT release fat from your fat cells to burn. So when your blood sugar levels are high, your body isn't burning fat. Another thing is when your blood sugar is high, your body is using that blood sugar for energy instead of using fat. Sugar is the preferred fuel for your body because it's easier to use, but it confuses the body so the body takes a guess and always releases too much insulin to bring your blood sugar level down but too much insulin results in bringing your blood sugar levels too low leaving you feeling dizzy and lethargic craving for more sugary foods to perk yourself up again, this is where the vicious cycle starts. How do you stop this cycle? To stop this vicious cycle you need keep your blood sugar levels stable so your body stays in fat burning mode instead of STORAGE mode. You accomplish this by focusing on eating low G.I carbs (every G.I diet book gives you a list of low G.I foods) When you eat low G.I foods, the carbs are converted into sugar at a slower, steadier rate into the body, this way your body doesn't have to panick and send out extra reserves of insulin in an emergency response, also your blood sugar levels will not drop so suddenly leaving you craving for more sugar an hour later. The steady state you recieve from consuming low G.I foods will allow your body to access stored bodyfat and use this fat for energy instead of constantly relying on blood sugar. The bonus… you don't get as hungry and you feel more energised throughout the day with a leaner body to go with it. G.I diet: A eating plan for life Another advantage of the G.I diet is that it focuses on good amounts of protein, healthy fats and fiber, which is a well balanced diet. The concept of the G.I diet is scientifically sound because it works and can be maintained for the rest of your life unlike many fad diets which cannot. Eating low G.I foods for fat loss can have a positive impact not only on your fat loss but on your mood and well being as well. A diet that focuses on natural, unprocessed foods such as whole grains, quality lean proteins, healthy fats and lots of fiber is no doubt going to be a effective diet
WHAT IS THE BEST DIET Many people ask me which is the best diet for me to follow, with practically a new diet coming out every year I find myself getting frustrated with the mis- information being put out there. Let me shine some light on some of these fad diets. Why fad diets don't work There's no question if you follow these fad diets you will lose weight, but I can also guarantee you will not be able to sustain these so-called diets which is why millions of people follow these diets only to pack back on the pounds again. The simple answer to this is fad diets do not work, the reason they do not work is because you can only follow such a ridiculous routine for only so long successful long-term weight loss is not necessarily about a diet but it's about long-term happiness. I even hate that word diets, because it is linked to feelings of restriction and unhappiness but what I do believe in is a sensible nutrition plan which allows you to eat five to six enjoyable small meals a day. To be honest with you I wish all of these fad diets did work then we wouldn't be experiencing the problems we have today such as obesity, diabetes and cardiovascular disease. Before I explain to you the concept of a healthy eating plan I'll cover just a few of these fad diets.
THE ATKINS DIET. I'm sure you've all heard of the Atkins diet and heard about the supposed success stories. The problem is that most of these fad diets work on the basis of calorie reduction. with the Atkins carbohydrates are severely limited, the atkins diet requires that you get your calories from just protein and fat. The way this works is by consuming so much fat and protein it sends a signal to your brain saying that your full when in reality you are not, this can result in metabolic disorders. The Atkins diet will allow you to lose weight but at what cost? the side-effects of the Atkins diet is nausea, vomiting, stomach pain, and bad breath (urghh) I would have to say the Atkins diet is a big no-no, a healthy diet is well rounded and borrows from all the food groups such as carbohydrates, protein and good fats. Tricking your body into believing it is full, when it's not, will only can catch up with you and make you feel ill through the lack of nutrients received in you diet. The weight loss achieved in Atkins is mainly muscle mass, and muscle tissue is what helps speed up your metabolic rate, the more muscle tissue you have the more calories you burn. Which is why when people realise they cannot sustain the Atkins diet any more they put the weight on twice as fast because now they do not have the muscle to combat the fat. Bear in mind when a new diet hits the market and seems too good to be true, your usually right!
THE ZONE DIET The zone diet is used by many celebrities such as Jennifer aniston, Renee zellweger, Madonna, Cindy Crawford and Winona Ryder. The main concept of the zone diet is a balanced ratio of carbohydrates (40) and proteins (30%) so on this diet you do actually get to eat, which in my eyes is a good start. The zone diet works by following recipes with a low-carbohydrate diet plan, it does insist on watching your calorie consumption while eating eg. A meal must not exceed 500 calories and a snack must not exceed 100 calories which they call staying in the zone. I must say weight loss is not the only benefit of the zone diet you also experience improved energy, improved mental clarity and is also ideal for type 2 diabetes sufferers. This diet was implemented to reduce hunger and compulsion to eat. Zone diet recipes are customized to each individual, based on your sex, activity level and proportion of body fat. The foods the zone diet encourages are fresh vegetables, fruits and nuts, leafy green vegetables, sufficient protein consumption, and eight glasses of water everyday. How weight loss is achieved with the zone diet is similar to the low gi diet. By reducing your carbohydrates your body will not produce too much insulin (a hormone that tells your body to store up nutrients) consuming too much carbohydrates causes this to happen which is why carbs are seen as the bad guys. The overload of insulin tells the body to convert the carbohydrates you ate into fat stores around your belly, thighs, buttocks and other areas. Carbohydrates are not totally the bad guys if you limit them and balance them with low-fat protein this will keep your insulin levels balanced. I like this diet because it's not so much a diet, it's more of a eating plan. The only problem I have with the zone diet is calculating meals and snacks every day is not totally convenient, with 5 hours of exercise a week and a variety of balanced meals consisting of low gi carbs, protein and veg is a simpler formula to lose weight.
THE SOUTH BEACH DIET The south beach to me is an improved version of the atkins diet because it does allow "good" carbohydrates like fruit and foods with a low glycemic (Gi) index. The south beach diet gives you the freedom to snack all day if you feel the need to and not to worry about counting calories. This diet is a complete waste of time because if you give people in search of losing weight the go-ahead to eat a portion as big as they like, they probably will, I know I would if I didn't know any better. Even eating the healthiest foods if you consume too much you will still put on weight.
WEIGHT WATCHERS Weight watchers have created their own brand of foods with low calories from full dinners to ice cream. I must say weight watchers have tried to make counting calories as simple as they can here by running a points system. Their point system runs something like this: each food has a point value ranging from 0 for jelly to 8 for pizza. Depending on your bodyweight, you are allowed a certain amount of points daily, if you stay under your points you lose weight. With weight watchers you are allowed to bank points and use them over days, exercise also earns you points. When you're feeling down in the dumps or lacking in the motivation department you can go to daily weight watchers meetings and get great tips and motivation from others who have overcome their obstacles and achieved there goals. I believe weight watchers has stood the test of time because they focus more on long term healthy eating rather than restrictive dieting, we are all human and sometimes we desire some of our favorite dessert or pizza without having to feel like a failure. I feel this is totally acceptable and is a good approach to achieving your goals.
THE GI DIET This diet definitely takes the No.1 spot for me, because it's more of a eating plan than a restrictive diet. The GI diet also teaches you that carbs are not the bad guys after all, it's the type of carbs you eat that is important. Put simply the GI diet is a scale which charts how quickly a food is converted into sugar in the body. Foods that chart as a high G.I number are converted into sugar more quickly than foods that have a low G.I number, the scale is based on a rating of 1 to 100. So why is the G.I number important? If a food is rated high on the G.I scale your body is more likely to store fat, this is due to insulin which is the primary storage hormone in your body and is used to help get nutrients into the different cells of your body. High G.I foods raise our blood sugar so rapidly that insulin has to be released in our body to bring our blood sugar down to a normal baseline, in order for insulin to bring our blood sugar levels down it has to store the sugar It's a simple stimulus - response system that works to keep blood sugar levels in balance in the body. So how does this affect your fat loss? I'll tell you how, just remember when insulin is present in your bloodstream, your body is in STORAGE mode and will NOT release fat from your fat cells to burn. So when your blood sugar levels are high, your body isn't burning fat. Another thing is when your blood sugar is high, your body is using that blood sugar for energy instead of using fat. Sugar is the preferred fuel for your body because it's easier to use, but it confuses the body so the body takes a guess and always releases too much insulin to bring your blood sugar level down but too much insulin results in bringing your blood sugar levels too low leaving you feeling dizzy and lethargic craving for more sugary foods to perk yourself up again, this is where the vicious cycle starts. How do you stop this cycle? To stop this vicious cycle you need keep your blood sugar levels stable so your body stays in fat burning mode instead of STORAGE mode. You accomplish this by focusing on eating low G.I carbs (every G.I diet book gives you a list of low G.I foods) When you eat low G.I foods, the carbs are converted into sugar at a slower, steadier rate into the body, this way your body doesn't have to panick and send out extra reserves of insulin in an emergency response, also your blood sugar levels will not drop so suddenly leaving you craving for more sugar an hour later. The steady state you recieve from consuming low G.I foods will allow your body to access stored bodyfat and use this fat for energy instead of constantly relying on blood sugar. The bonus… you don't get as hungry and you feel more energised throughout the day with a leaner body to go with it. G.I diet: A eating plan for life Another advantage of the G.I diet is that it focuses on good amounts of protein, healthy fats and fiber, which is a well balanced diet. The concept of the G.I diet is scientifically sound because it works and can be maintained for the rest of your life unlike many fad diets which cannot. Eating low G.I foods for fat loss can have a positive impact not only on your fat loss but on your mood and well being as well. A diet that focuses on natural, unprocessed foods such as whole grains, quality lean proteins, healthy fats and lots of fiber is no doubt going to be a effective diet
Ajari Aku Mencintaimu......
Tentunya kita pernah dong suka sama seseorang.... apalagi orang tersebut juga memiliki perasaan yang sama terhadap kita, wah.... dunia terasa indah rasanya. Tapi, itu akan terasa berbeda ketika orang yang kita suka tidak menanggapi perasaan kita. Kalau hal ini terjadi, jangang keburu sedih dan ngerasa down. Semua pasti ada jalan keluarnya, ingat ada banyak jalan menuju roma. Coba deh baca dulu beberapa langkah di bawah, siapa tahu orang yang kamu suka bisa berubah perasaanya . Siapa tahu juga , perlahan tapi pasti dia mulai bisa menerima kamu apa adanya dan mencintaimu sepenuh hati....
1. Beri perhatian
Sebetulnya ini sesuatu yang normal. Kalau kamu suka sama seseorang , pasti ingin merhatiin orang itu terus, kan? Boleh dan wajar banget, tapi ingat, jangan terlalu berlebih sampai akhirnya malah bikin orang itu terganggu dengan perhatianmu. Tiap jam kamu telepon sekedar nanya sedang apa dia, sudah makan belum. Kalau dia sudah suka sama kamu sih nggak apa-apa kamu lakiun itu. Tapi kalau masih dalam tahap “mengajari” supaya dia suka sama kamu, kayaknya harus tahu diri juga dong....
2. Kasih hadiah
Sekali –kali kasih hadiah juga nggak ad salahnya. Tapi biar beda, berilah dia hadiah yang nggak pernah diterimanya selama ini. Kalau selama ini dia suka sama boneka, berilah dia novel ringan yang menarik, agar pemberian mu dapat dia ingat, karena nggak sama dengan hadiah-hadiah yang diterimanya sebelumnya. Mungkin dia tidak suka membaca, tapi suatu saat, dia pasti akan membaca novel pemberian kamu.
3. Be a good friend
Kalau kamu belum bisa menjadi pacarnya, belajarlah dulu menjadi temannya. Teman tempat dia berbagi cerita, teman yang mau dicurhatintentang ortunya, atau teman yang menemaninya kemana saja. Dengan begitu, kamu bisa lebih kenal dengannya dan sebaliknya. Yang jelas, untuk bisa sampai pada tahap pacar, memang harus sabar ya.....
4. Surprise, surprise!
Supaya dia tahu kalau kamu nggak sekedar suka sama dia, coba deh kasih dia surprise kecil. Ingat, surprise itu nggak selalu ngasih hadiah atau bikin pesta lho! Walaupun, hal kayak gitu boleh juga dilakukan. Berilah dia surprise yang sederhana. Simple dan bilin dia teringat terus sama kamu. Misalnya kalau dia lagi sedih, dan dia butuh teman ngobrol, datanglah kerumahnya sambil membawa cake kecil dan VCD komedi romantis kayak Friends. Bilin dia hepi? Kenapa nggak!
5. Ingat selalu tanggal-tanggal pentingnya
Kalau kamu mau dekat dengan seseorang, ingatlah selalu tanggal-tanggal yang dianggap penting olehnya. Apalagi ulang tahunnya. Wah, kalau lupa, gawat tuh! Telepon tepat jam 24.00 nggak ad salahnya. Kalau bisa jadilah orang pertama yang mengucapkan “Selamat ulang tahun” kepadanya.
6. Kenal dengan teman dan keluarganya
Biar dia nggak merasa asing dengan kamu, cobalah dekati juga teman dan keluarganya. Nggak ada salahnya kok “say hai” atau beramah-tamah dengan mereka. Kalau kamu saudah kenal dengan orang-orang terdekatnya, mungkin hatinya juga akan luluh dengan usaha kamu.
7.Jangan rampas kebebasannya
Banyak cara untuk membuat dia merasa nyaman. Misalnya, jangan larang dia untuk melakukan apa yang dia inginkan. Daripada kamu melarang dia, lebih baik beri pengertian baik-buruknya tentang hal tersebut. Dengan itu dia akan menyadari kalau kamu nggak bermaksud merampas kebebasannya, tapi justru ingin berjalan sering dengannya.
1. Beri perhatian
Sebetulnya ini sesuatu yang normal. Kalau kamu suka sama seseorang , pasti ingin merhatiin orang itu terus, kan? Boleh dan wajar banget, tapi ingat, jangan terlalu berlebih sampai akhirnya malah bikin orang itu terganggu dengan perhatianmu. Tiap jam kamu telepon sekedar nanya sedang apa dia, sudah makan belum. Kalau dia sudah suka sama kamu sih nggak apa-apa kamu lakiun itu. Tapi kalau masih dalam tahap “mengajari” supaya dia suka sama kamu, kayaknya harus tahu diri juga dong....
2. Kasih hadiah
Sekali –kali kasih hadiah juga nggak ad salahnya. Tapi biar beda, berilah dia hadiah yang nggak pernah diterimanya selama ini. Kalau selama ini dia suka sama boneka, berilah dia novel ringan yang menarik, agar pemberian mu dapat dia ingat, karena nggak sama dengan hadiah-hadiah yang diterimanya sebelumnya. Mungkin dia tidak suka membaca, tapi suatu saat, dia pasti akan membaca novel pemberian kamu.
3. Be a good friend
Kalau kamu belum bisa menjadi pacarnya, belajarlah dulu menjadi temannya. Teman tempat dia berbagi cerita, teman yang mau dicurhatintentang ortunya, atau teman yang menemaninya kemana saja. Dengan begitu, kamu bisa lebih kenal dengannya dan sebaliknya. Yang jelas, untuk bisa sampai pada tahap pacar, memang harus sabar ya.....
4. Surprise, surprise!
Supaya dia tahu kalau kamu nggak sekedar suka sama dia, coba deh kasih dia surprise kecil. Ingat, surprise itu nggak selalu ngasih hadiah atau bikin pesta lho! Walaupun, hal kayak gitu boleh juga dilakukan. Berilah dia surprise yang sederhana. Simple dan bilin dia teringat terus sama kamu. Misalnya kalau dia lagi sedih, dan dia butuh teman ngobrol, datanglah kerumahnya sambil membawa cake kecil dan VCD komedi romantis kayak Friends. Bilin dia hepi? Kenapa nggak!
5. Ingat selalu tanggal-tanggal pentingnya
Kalau kamu mau dekat dengan seseorang, ingatlah selalu tanggal-tanggal yang dianggap penting olehnya. Apalagi ulang tahunnya. Wah, kalau lupa, gawat tuh! Telepon tepat jam 24.00 nggak ad salahnya. Kalau bisa jadilah orang pertama yang mengucapkan “Selamat ulang tahun” kepadanya.
6. Kenal dengan teman dan keluarganya
Biar dia nggak merasa asing dengan kamu, cobalah dekati juga teman dan keluarganya. Nggak ada salahnya kok “say hai” atau beramah-tamah dengan mereka. Kalau kamu saudah kenal dengan orang-orang terdekatnya, mungkin hatinya juga akan luluh dengan usaha kamu.
7.Jangan rampas kebebasannya
Banyak cara untuk membuat dia merasa nyaman. Misalnya, jangan larang dia untuk melakukan apa yang dia inginkan. Daripada kamu melarang dia, lebih baik beri pengertian baik-buruknya tentang hal tersebut. Dengan itu dia akan menyadari kalau kamu nggak bermaksud merampas kebebasannya, tapi justru ingin berjalan sering dengannya.
Selasa, 25 Maret 2008
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